Bonjour beauties! Today I wanted to discuss balance! It’s a tough thing to acquire especially when we are bombarded by certain things from the media, to friends, and family. However, its so important we live a balanced lifestyle.
Most of us who like to “eat clean” and sweat (mostly) everyday, fall into the perfectionist trap. This trap can be a positive thing, however there are moments when being a perfectionist can hinder us. In some ways, I am very content with how things are going until I see someone who does it better than me. Therefore, I am not the best which means I should give up since someone else is “better”.
* I know one thing that is pretty darn perfect and that’s starting everyday with a wonderful breakfast;) Oat bran, egg whites, hemp and chia seeds, banana, stevia, and cashew butter. *
I tend to not be satisfied easily, things can always be better, until I reach “perfection”. Which we all know is unattainable. How can someone be perfect, flawless in every area of their life. I’m certain we can agree that is impossible, so why do we still try and reach for this “perfect image”? While in the journey of bettering my life, or my looks; it has done the opposite effect and driven me to a point of mental and physical exhaustion.
* Keeping up with the roasted kabocha snacking is still going strong, there is just something magical and addicting about that squash! Plus, I can’t forget the coconut butter on the side.*
If we keep worrying about being “perfect” or the best at something, it can make us put off excuses into trying new things. We are so afraid of “failing” that we don’t even try. So why risk the fear of failure. The truth is, if you fail at something at least you are getting out there and trying. You are being that much more productive than the person sitting on their couch wishing they could try something but won’t try because they fear failure.
Life may be easier if we had things handed to us, but where is the reward in that? It wouldn’t feel as good if you didn’t earn things for yourself. What is the point in living life with a fear of the unknown. At least we could say we tried and failed, rather than failed to try.
* Most of my evening snacks these days are protein muffins, alongside coconut “frosting” and peanut flour paste. I can’t get enough of the endless options of microwaves muffins! *
In terms of recovery, perfectionism could be seen as a positive thing. If I want to be healthy, why don’t I want to fully recover? A lot of the time I am so tempted to step back into old patterns and eating rituals. Mostly because it would be easier to not deal with this. I wouldn’t have to fight as hard. Other times I feel jealous that other people can live “normal lives” pretending they’re healthy, when in reality are sick.
It feels easier and safe to live a life based on calculations. If I consume “x” amount of calories each day and do “x” amount of fitness every day, I can maintain this weight and therefore will be happy. When things go awry, (weight changes you know) this leads to feelings of anxiety or depression and therefore feeds into the perfectionist mind even more. If we tend to feel imperfect (or out of control) in one area, we try and make everything else appear “perfect” in things we can control.
The key is identifying the thoughts and conquering them to live a truly balanced life. We need to be willing to change these negative thoughts. If there are set backs along the way that is fine, just because we struggle with things or need to ask for help does not mean we are failures. It’s exciting and fulfilling to live outside our comfort zones and make mistakes. It makes life worth living. When we do things outside our comfort zone and are out of our own control, that is how we experience life. It’s exciting, scary, and wonderful.
By letting go of the need to control everything, we create balance. We can eat more without feeling guilt, exercise less one day and more the other. Life balances out, it is not a calculation. Wouldn’t it be excellent if we felt so at peace in our life because we don’t have to control every aspect. Change your thinking and in turn it will change your behaviours! If we let go of these negative perfection thoughts we can bring ourselves back to our state of happiness and calmness. And wouldn’t that feel more amazing then being in a constant state of anxiety. My answer is yes.
What does balance look like to you?
Do you struggle with perfectionism?
Have an awesome Thursday!