Today I have another fantastic guest blogger to share her beautiful words of wisdom with you all! Sam has been an incredible support in my recovery and she’s always filled with lots of positive energy and truths. I couldn’t be more thankful she’s here today to share some of her wonderful advice with all of you. Take it away Sam!
Hello Lisa Lately-ers! If you don’t know me, my name is Sam, and I blog about food, fitness and having a balanced lifestyle over at betterwithsprinkles.com. I adore Lisa and her blog, so I’m incredibly honoured and excited that she asked me to fill in for her today. We Canadian lady bloggers have to stick together, right?
In my life, I’ve battled a variety of issues concerning my eating habits and body image. I went from dealing with binge/starvation cycles in high school to developing anorexia in university. Fortunately, I’m at the part of my life right now where I consider my relationship with food to be nothing but healthy. I eat what I enjoy in the moment that I want it, whether that’s a big-ass salad or a big bowl of ice cream (with sprinkles, obviously). I eat enough to satisfy me, keep me happy, and fuel my workouts and daily life.
In recovery, I had a lot of mantras and motivational quotes to keep me going through the hard times (and recovery from an eating disorder is absolutely full of difficult times, as anyone who’s gone through/going through the process can attest to). But one that stuck out to me the most?
“Life’s too short.”
For one thing, I knew that if I continued living the way I was (undereating, over-exercising, overly anxious about everything that went into my body) I would cut my life short…really short. Eating disorders have the highest mortality rate of any mental illness, and I would like to stick around for a long time! That in itself served as motivation to break free from my anorexia.
But in looking at the life I was living, I realized how miserable I was and how lousy I was to be around. Because really, who wants to be friends or get close to someone who obsesses over their food intake and the amount of exercise they get? Someone who will go out to dinner and order water and the side salad? Someone who will turn down invitations to fun events because they’re afraid of the food or alcohol being offered? Someone who skips out on nights on the town because they can’t ‘break their routine’? Someone who talks about nothing but food and exercise?
Who wants to be around that? And really, who wants to LIVE like that? I certainly didn’t. So, I decided that life was too short to do that to myself and the people around me. As morbid of a thought as this is, I’m not going to be around forever. And I know it’s not my body that people are going to remember about me, or the control I had around ‘bad’ food. It’s who I am as a person and how I lived my life that people are going to remember.
Life’s too short to skip out on birthday cake.
Life’s too short to blow off plans with friends because I want to get to the gym.
Life’s too short to stop myself from trying a new and exciting dish because I’m too afraid to stray from my ‘safe foods’.
Life’s too short to have every thought be consumed by what I’m going to eat and when I’m going to exercise.
Life’s too short to watch the minutes on the clock count down while I wait until I’m ‘allowed’ to eat my next meal. So, I’m not doing any of those things anymore.
So I eat ice cream for dinner sometimes. I skip out on the gym once in a while. I stay out with my friends and drink too much late into the night when the situation calls for it. I’m accepting my body at the size it wants to be, rather than forcing it to be unnaturally small. I focus most of energy on my friends, family, school, work, and my adorable pug puppy Atticus.
I’ve left my food obsessions and disordered habits behind, truly focusing on living the life that I want to live and be remembered for. Sounds a lot more fun than a lifetime of counting calories, doesn’t it?
I’d love the chance to chat with you guys more! Pop over to the blog or send me an email, mmk? Have a good one!
Thanks again Sam! Your thoughts and words are always spot on!
Finish this statement for yourself: Life’s too short to…
Hope you’re all having am amazing week!