What you allow is what will continue.
It’s a fairly obvious statement, but it was never something I considered until it finally clicked in my mind.
I’ve heard of this quote a number of times but never put much thought into it, until I really started putting an effort into changing my life.
For a long time I was stuck in a place of anxiousness, disordered eating, and just an overall lack of motivation for life. I kept telling myself that tomorrow would be different or that if I was meant to change it would just happen. Well, that’s not exactly realistic. You can’t expect to want something and the next day have it magically appear in front of you. That’s not realistic…in the slightest. And somehow I just continued to wish for things to happen without making an effort to change.
These issues can occur in all different parts of life – from friendships, family, your job, the way you think, or your health. Until you start implementing changes, these problems will continue.
Want to feel more confident? By continuing to put yourself down or think of yourself in a negative light your confidence won’t change.
Having problems in a relationship? Until you confront the person these problems won’t change.
Want to make a serious health commitment like losing weight? When you stop complaining, and instead get up and do something about this goal your behaviours won’t change.
You need to be the one to make the decision to live a happy life. When you decide that you can begin to change things that you no longer want to live with. It’s a lot easier to blame others or events, instead of looking at what we need to do differently to change.
Are you good at confronting people if something is bugging you? This is the thing I find the hardest. I absolutely hate confrontation and feeling like I may hurt someone’s feelings – I’m working on it.